The Word That Must Not Be Spoken
The letters S-E-X were in a lovely graphic of rainbow colors. My middle school girls had seen the picture as they were flipping through their Bible study guide. In fact, they commented on how much they liked it until they recognized the word spelled out amidst the swirls of color. Then for weeks they dreaded the coming lesson. It was clear that "Sex" became the word that must not be spoken.
The two weeks we discussed God’s design for marriage and sex were among the hardest I had to teach to my discipling group of three 13-year-olds girls.
The girls giggled, laughed and blushed through the lesson, reinforcing my insecurities about my ability to teach. However, I clung to God’s promise in Isaiah 55:11 “so is my word that goes out from my mouth: It will not return to me empty, but will accomplish what I desire and achieve the purpose for which I sent it.”
Two weeks later one of the young ladies said, “I’m glad we talked about …that word …because now that I’m studying Life Sciences I have a different perspective on what we are being taught.”
The difficult Bible study lesson opened the door for more conversations. She expressed her disappointment that the class had her watch a modern TV series about teenagers which depicted the Christian worldview as shallow and too perfect for the real world.
She further commented on how the lesson taught abstinence for all the health and welfare reasons, but failed to talk about the emotional, relational and spiritual reasons that God designed sex to be between one man and one woman.
So What? (which coincidentally is the name of the discipleship series we are using.)
Even though I’m not confident that I’m teaching the girls anything, I always learn something in the process. In this lesson I learned that even though the girls didn’t want to discuss the topic and made it difficult, they still needed to hear what God had to say about it.
It reinforced what I already knew. Our kids are going to learn a lot of lessons in their lives, but only we are going to teach them what God has to say about it.